“Wait, Is It a romantic date?”: Another Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Thanks for visiting “Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date” the podcast about queer relationship you won’t ever understood you always needed, managed by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came into this world regarding Drew and I’s mutual passion for voice memos and strong conversations about online dating. We’ve been delivering both voice memos for only over a year today, heading deeply regarding the things Drew really likes about internet dating (folks! enjoyable! flirting!) together with circumstances I dislike about internet dating (People! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of enjoyment, innovative, and insightful discussions and frankly, it felt impolite to rob the more public of those!

Think about us since your friendly community co-hosts, directing you through super certain queer dating conundrums because genuinely, straight matchmaking podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG tales? How will you take long, slow flirting to the next level? So what does it indicate to think men and women are into you? We’re going to talk with some of Autostraddle’s finest experts, play some very specific games, document on our very own pop music society crushes of the moment not to mention, you will need to respond to the endless question your instances: Wait…is this a date???

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Drew: Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina: And That I’m Christina. And this refers to Wait, Is It a night out together? An Autostraddle podcast this is certainly centered on issue, “Wait, so is this a romantic date?”

Drew: I’m very thrilled to learn.

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Christina: Yeah. In my opinion we’ve been on a quest to discover what are times and exactly what are maybe not dates, as pals, and also as a people, In my opinion.

Drew: Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina: Should we tell those queers and lesbians exactly what our very own entire indealment is, like what we should’re around within moment?

Drew: Like just who the audience is?

Christina: Yeah.

Drew: Yeah. I am able to go initial. I’m Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the website. I really do countless movie and TV criticism, and gender and online dating writing, and private essays, and things that blend all those things. I’m trans I am also a lesbian, and that I feel i will add a 3rd thing because things are in threes. Just what more? Exactly what else?

Christina: Things carry out go on threes. You may have great tresses.

Drew: Oh, thank you.

Christina: You’ve got amazing hair, I think that is really important.

Drew: Those are my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.

Christina: Those are the identities.

Drew: Yeah.

Christina: I constantly mentioned that you’re a lady of hair knowledge. I’ve usually asserted that in regards to you.

Drew: Yeah. It is essential.

Christina: Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I am additionally a writer at Autostraddle, if you’re able to accept it, just who produces about… oh, let us merely state whatever one thinks of. Which is truly the ambiance. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Black. I don’t know who else i’m.

Drew: You might also need great tresses.

Christina: Ok last one, no, I mean, i do believe this is certainly perhaps a podcast of tresses knowledge. Perhaps that needs to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I guess the individuals are likely wanting to know how exactly we got to this podcast specifically.

Drew: Yes. And like every great thing in life — and also by that i am talking about, really, hardly any — it started as a highdea, as a thing that we delivered you in a vocals memo, high. And heading back beyond that, we began delivering voice memos to each other in the very beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo: Okay. I am merely going to inform you such as the thoughts that i’ve, and then you may go from that point and respond to myself, perhaps not respond to myself, whatever. I’m similar to, this is me personally getting direct and clear. Okay. I am some one who… I love making reference to online dating. It’s one of my main subjects of dialogue. I have now stated my part.

Christina, in a voice memo: Thank you so much for saying your piece. Also, six mins and 54 seconds. Truthfully, rather remarkable to get that out in that timeframe. I never truly think about online dating. I think, maybe, an opposite feeling of your want to think about dating and explore dating and, like, end up being online dating. I do believe those are my views. Really, I’m delivering a Drew-level voice memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I’ll deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo: Yeah. I know that you don’t consider online dating, not everything me personally, perhaps around anyone else I know?

Christina, in a voice memo: I think about internet dating under almost anyone I additionally know. I don’t know. We genuinely have no idea easily’ve met anyone who willn’t consider matchmaking as far as I perform or as far as I do not, i suppose.

Drew: We failed to really know each other. We had been peers at Autostraddle, however for people who don’t understand, Autostraddle is a virtual work place. It’s more of a Slack situation than a, we appear to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That is not truly the feeling. We didn’t truly know each other. After which, the beginning of pandemic, there was some DM sliding several friendship building and some voice memoing. And now we would constantly joke it was like we’d a podcast because we would send these lengthy voice memos. Right after which when I was actually stoned, I became love, “We in fact should.” And here we have been.

Christina: Yeah. I realize everything imply by high some ideas not at all times getting the very best tips, but i actually do have a rather obvious remembrance of hearing you claim that being like, “Yeah, however we ought to have a podcast. We have been executing each some other. Have you thought to receive other folks in it?”

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Typically my personal large tactics are things such as, “Oh my God, there should be a TV tv show known as Get A Hold Of Your Own Star Twin, where you take a hollywood after which they fulfill someone who — like a haphazard person who provides their unique exact same birth data. That can, is one of my high some ideas that I think is fantastic. It Is like…

Christina: Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew: That’s a no cost one. Really don’t care.

Christina: No, it isn’t really. Drew, I’m obtaining you cash, I am going to end up being your money manager for this. No way.

Drew: I recently need to see this stuff in the field. Fundamentally, this can be a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. And another of the reasons why truly that subject, unlike a variety of other stuff Christina and I also speak about, is basically because I adore internet dating and Christina does not love matchmaking which is an enjoyable little.

Christina: A reduced amount of an admirer.

Drew: And conflict is really… that is where crisis occurs. In my opinion Socrates asserted that.

Christina: Completely.

Drew: This is exactly why that’s all of our topic. We’re going to cover all sorts of things.

Christina: Yeah. We will explore the best queer online dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from potential event: Correct myself easily’m completely wrong, but i do believe Instagram is the best queer matchmaking app.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential episode: 1000 %. Simple fact is that most useful.

Christina, in sound video from potential episode: I have heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in audio clip from future event: Definitely. It gives you you actually all you need, unless another person’s personal. But even although you’re personal, baby, we’ll uncover all about you, some type of means.

Drew, in sound video from potential occurrence: We will talk about ideal intercourse we’ve ever had.

Dani, in audio video from potential event: After which I finally requested like, “No, do you go beyond here to have intercourse? Tend to be we browsing have intercourse?” And additionally they had been like, “Yeah, that’s what i desired.” Plus it was actually like, the cat plus the puppy had been in the space there had been cat-and-dog hair every-where. And I also ended up being like, seriously having an allergic response while we had been having sexual intercourse. The orgasm was actually, like, cook’s kiss. It absolutely was the most perfect experience.

Drew, in sound video from future episode: Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from potential episode: I ask yourself whether it’s one thing about the hives that basically included. Like slightly ‘jenesequa’ to this climax feel. It actually was like, “Ooh, i am some itchy also.” I question just how much that facets. We’re making reference to how-to break-up with folks.

Ro, in sound video from potential episode: It feels as though a tremendously straight lifestyle thing, too.

Christina, in audio clip from potential occurrence: Yeah.

Ro, in sound clip from potential occurrence: At the very least in my opinion, i’m like… My right pals are those who will be more prone to say, “Well, shag that individual. That individual sucks,” basically finish a relationship with someone. While, queer people in my life are the ones that happen to be more prone to keep relationships with exes or perhaps see all of our exes in a holistic means.

Christina, in audio video from future occurrence: Everything you could imagine in a matchmaking podcast, and I also’m perhaps not probably lie for your requirements folks, additionally more. A lot more than you could potentially actually contemplate.

Drew, in audio video from future episode: If you are sexting via book, can it be like what you would like all of them… Are you undertaking role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re touching me personally nowadays” or “If only you’re touching,” what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound video from future episode: Yeah, I found myself gonna ask similar question, really, because that’s a thing that’s usually interesting to me, particularly simply because we are all authors, in addition.

Christina, in sound video from potential occurrence: I found myself going to state, a team of article authors like, “What tense are we functioning?”

Kayla, in audio video from future episode: Perspective.

Christina, in audio clip from potential event: It is a close third, what’s occurring right here?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential occurrence: Like, strictly next?

Drew: Here is the fact about queer people. Let me tell you.

Christina: Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thanks for visiting your own TED Chat. Let’s go off.

Drew: We many encounters and generally are a lot more interesting. Merely while I look at the method in which directly individuals talk about matchmaking, it really is very dull. And I also think so typically, queer dating conversations tend to be extensions associated with conventional dating discussion, but including such things as “coming-out” and “very first time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” Its like — there’s much more nuance in so many more… Its very interesting. Just what some sort of that it’s, queer sex and queer relationship.

Christina: We have taken like extremely classic variety of monotonous design of heterosexual dating and really delivered it into a fresh world, filled with long conversations and running all of our feelings. It really is incredible work.

Drew: Yeah. I am actually thrilled and that I hope all of you are excited, because our very own very first episode arrives weekly from these days and, there’ll end up being brand-new episodes every Wednesday.

Christina: This has been 1 week before you’ll hear the podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you won’t just get To L and Straight Back on Mondays, you’re going to get Hold Off, Is It A Date? on Wednesdays.

Drew: And that I co-host both, so if you hate me personally, I guess you’re not experiencing Autostraddle podcasts. Assuming you will do like me, you are welcome.

Christina: Additionally, if you don’t like Drew, grow up, is what I have to say.

Drew: I am not for everyone, I’m fine with this. I do believe it’s probably good to not be for everyone.

Christina: Sure. I do believe which is totally fair. And perhaps an interest we could talk about on one of one’s future periods. What will happen when you are not for all? We cherished that I went like, “Ooh, why don’t we get this all-inclusive.” What will happen as soon as you, we, as individuals. You mentioned, let’s do a whole occurrence in regards to, “What if I am not for everyone?”

Drew: Really, it’s Leo season and that I’m a Leo rising and I also decided rendering it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina: As am I. thanks quite definitely.

Drew: The audience is twin Leo risings with this podcast, and that’s element of why it will likely be great. You’ll be able to tune in to all of us wherever you pay attention to the podcast. It will likely be a fairly common podcast situation. Nothing elegant, no riddles would have to be solved to get the episode, it will likely be immediately available.

Christina: Not the employer of you. There are several options, carry out what you will really.

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, there is all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you will email united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you will find me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal name in today’s tight.

Christina: I’ve looked over the social media addresses several times and I also have not, until this moment, recognized that it’s “draw.” Wow.

Drew: Yeah. Really that’s the thing, Drew ended up being used and that I have no idea how… Oh, I happened to be online dating some one that truly… Actually this individual who I dated, i did not get a great deal regarding that connection, except I mentioned this concept and she believed it had been so amusing, like also amusing, frankly, like the main issue, i do believe possibly. And I was encouraged to get it done, then it’s simply trapped.

Christina: Wow.

Drew: But yeah. Occasionally men and women think i am a visual artist and also you know very well what, i enjoy be thought of like that, but i can not, I don’t genuinely have design abilities.

Christina: I’ll state there is nothing regarding brand name for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” And you becoming want, “in fact, it really is a funny story about matchmaking.”

Drew: Certainly, exactly.

Christina: Perfect.

Drew: Exactly what are your personal handles, and are generally they linked to your romantic life?

Christina: Merely, no. You will find myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the internet site. And if you should discover me personally on Instagram, can help you therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really really fearless of me to know my own Instagram handle.

Drew: Wonderful work.

Christina: Cheers such.

Drew: It’s always a pleasure to talk to you and i am so excited to dive into all these interesting subjects. And also for our very own listeners to arrive at know united states a little bit much better and obtain to… I think we are able to all, I think all of us are likely to discover on this subject journey.

Christina: I’m hoping thus. We subscribed to learning.

Drew: Yeah.

Christina: Like an university span of podcasts. That caused it to be sound like a complete bummer. Therefore sorry.

Drew: I don’t know. I had some really great school classes.

Christina: Clearly, I did as well, but I Really Don’t want to make anybody—

Drew: Can you picture exactly how incredible it will be in the event that you arrived to your college class and either people was actually your teacher, or we taught a course collectively, that’d become hottest thing ever. Individuals might be like…

Christina: Hottest pass around. Enrollment is off the data.

Drew: Oh, we have to have an episode that’s specialized in hot professors. That is not related.

Christina: That is not not appropriate. We’ll say that.

Drew: Sure, sure. I feel like there might be — you must make it some broader, but that knows? That knows what will maintain the long term, and that’s actually exciting. And you also know who’ll know? You, listener, as soon as you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina: You stay tuned while crucially struck that old subscribe option and you can go out around every Wednesday and get your self, “What is a date?”

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That gives myself to… I’m not sure. I became merely wondering… ended up being this a romantic date?

Christina: Drew, no. This will be a podcast truck.

Drew: Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. In my opinion I’m getting the hang of it and you understand what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, now I know, nowadays in direct communication is truly what it’s everything about.

Christina: Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew: Then one that a lot of people in our area could discover. And wewill, ideally, this is actually something. That is less of a podcast plus of a political work.

Christina: Wow. I becamen’t familiar with that, but i am happy to understand that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my personal favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite what to start off with P, podcasts and governmental acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo: I think my instinct is when i love individuals and that I want them during my life, I’m sure the very best way in my situation to keep them during my every day life is to ensure they are a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo: I am just thus grateful that individuals’ve come to be this type of buddies. And in case of quarantine, that is what took place, I made this unique brand new pal, who I love dearly and I also’m simply delighted to talk to you always, like exactly what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo: Dammit. I got a thought therefore moved away. It had been honestly most likely actually brilliant.